Connecting in Love - Frequently Asked Questions

If you have a question that isn't answered below please contact us.

“How do I know if the ’Connecting in Love‘ weekend is for me?”

The weekend is open to everyone who wants to improve their relationship with themselves and others. This includes couples, singles and people of every gender identification and sexual orientation who are over the age of 18. Participants range in age from 18 to their 70s, but in general, we tend to have large numbers of participants in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. During the weekend we explore personal growth, intimacy, love and sexuality.

“How will my relationship with others be improved?”

This weekend will enhance communication in all areas of your life. This includes your relationship with yourself so you know what you really want in life. You'll find a new respect for all genders regardless of sexual orientation. You'll be exposed to tools that help you heal past hurtful relationships and you'll learn to trust yourself and others more fully. This will help you find love, starting with self love, and keep the love you find.

“What is the format of the weekend?”

The weekend is more experiential than instructional in a traditional sense. There is a series of guided exercises which are designed to allow you to experience and identify for yourself which of your behaviors help or hinder you in having more love in your life. This kind of experience is more direct than simply listening to a lecture. As you focus on elements of how you are with people in your life, there is an opportunity to expand your awareness and take new actions. The focus is much more on who you are rather than what you do. The exercises are interspersed with sharing, tea breaks and meal breaks.

“What is sharing?”

Sharing is when you talk and reveal what you are thinking and feeling to others. During the weekend sharing may take place with individuals, with small groups of 4/5 others or with the entire group.

“Do I have to reveal my personal secrets when sharing?”

Of course not. The weekend is about choice and it is up to you how much you reveal during a share. Everyone in the group agrees to the confidentiality of everyone's sharing.

“Are you affiliated with a spiritual or religious organization?”

We occasionally use venues run by spiritual or religious groups but we have no other association with them. People of any (or no) spiritual or religious background are welcome to attend the weekend.

“How many people attend the weekend?”

Precise numbers can vary depending upon the capacity of the venue but there are typically 30participants, who will be supported by about 10 assistants and the weekend will be led by two facilitators.

“Why so many assistants?”

The assistants share the jobs needed to keep the weekend running smoothly and efficiently. They are also there to provide support to participants and to make up numbers in the exercises

“What do I need to bring?”

Yourself, some comfortable loose fitting clothes, toiletries and a water bottle. Depending upon venue you may be asked to bring a towel. If you have a floor chair (or Backjack) please bring it, or rent one from us at the venue.

“What time does the weekend start?”

The weekend starts on the Friday evening at 6:00pm and finishes on the Sunday at 6:00pm. Arrive up to an hour earlier for registration.

“What type of accommodation is available?”

Accommodation is in shared bedrooms (single beds) or dormitories.

“Can I have my own room?”

That depends upon the venue and the number of people attending so it cannot be guaranteed. Priority will be given to those with medical conditions. Earplugs are available if you are sensitive to other people's snoring.

“Do you support special dietary needs?”

Yes. The venues we use typically supply vegetarian meals. When you register please let us know what your requirements are and we will liaise with the venue to ensure your needs are met as closely as possible.

“Do I have to participate in every activity?”

Of course not. The weekend is about choice and it is up to you whether you participate in a specific activity or not. If you choose not to participate we ask that you remain in the room.

“What is the Saturday evening entertainment?”

This is a fun end to the Saturday where participants are invited to entertain the group by singing a song, reading a poem, telling a joke etc. The only requirement is that it take no more than 3 minutes.

“Do I have to entertain?”

Of course not. The weekend is about choice and it is up to you whether you entertain or not. Should you choose not to entertain then we hope you will be part of an appreciative and supportive audience.

“I have heard the weekend is clothing optional. Is this true?”

Yes, there is an opportunity to participate in an optional safe and loving disrobing exercise. This is not a requirement. This exercise is offered on Saturday during the weekend. The gentle disrobing exercise is led by the facilitators. From that point on, the weekend continues to be clothing optional - the key word being ‘optional’. Everyone in the group is always at choice, and there is no right or wrong way to do this exercise. You get to decide what feels right for you. The Disrobing Exercise is designed to allow us to experience feeling better about the skin we live in, and see one another's humanity in a profound way.

“Are the weekends about sexual technique?”

Sexual technique is not taught, but communication is, which can lead to greater sexual enjoyment. This weekend is much more about how to be intimate and loving than about teaching sexual techniques. By considering your notions about love, intimacy, and sexuality, you may see how those thoughts may get in the way of what you really want in some of your relationships.

“What about my boundaries? Will my boundaries be respected?”

Your boundaries will be fully respected and honored. We'll help you fully embrace your own sense of “yes” or “no” and be clear in all of your relationships so you can ask for what you want, or say what you don't want, without shame or guilt.

“Why is the weekend gender-balanced, and what do you mean by that?”

The weekend is carefully designed to provide an opportunity to connect and share with many different participants, including exercises with people of your same gender and people of different gender. In order for the different gender exercises to work, we need approximately the same number of men and women in each workshop. Agreeing to be a person's “gender balance” only means that two people of different genders are registering for the weekend together and thereby bypassing the waiting list. People who gender balance one another into a weekend may do as much or as little of the weekend together as they choose.

“How does the Wait List work?”

If you register with a person of a different gender to gender balance you, you bypass the wait list and go directly into the weekend. Anyone who signs up for the weekend without a gender balance is automatically placed on a waiting list, segregated by gender. If there is no one of your gender ahead of you when you sign up, and if there is a person of a different gender on the waiting list, then you and a person of a different gender will immediately receive confirmation of your places. However, if there are other people of your gender ahead of you, you will be placed next on the list, and as people of a different gender register for the weekend, you will receive confirmation on a first come/first served basis.

Please note that while we generally operate on a first come/first served basis we may give higher priority to those attending for the first time and/or those who are travelling long distance and require early confirmation in order to book their travel.

“Can I leave if I decide the weekend is not for me?”

Yes. You are not a prisoner and you are free to leave at any time. Please do not leave without informing us and if you drove to the venue we ask that for your safety you do not leave in an agitated state and take some time to calm down first.

“Is it possible to get a lift to the venue?”

When you register you can declare if you would like a lift or are willing to offer a lift. We will then try to match people together. Note that there are no guarantees. We request that those receiving lifts offer to pay a share of the petrol costs.

“What if I cannot afford to participate? Is there financial support available?”

Yes, the Human Awareness Institute (UK) Ltd offers bursaries to those in need of financial assistance. Please contact the UK Office for further information.

HAI workshops continue in Germany where they are conducted in English with translation into German. You can find out about them here: there is a Connecting in Love weekend on September 21st -23rd and you would be most welcome to attend - please inquire to Mikki at or register via their website.

Our 2018 HAI 21st Birthday Celebration Community Weekend will take place on:

Friday 14th September 2018 at 5pm to Sunday 16th September 3.30pm

Jason Weston will be joining us and leading some exercises, supported by others from our community. Come and join us, deepening old connections, making new ones.

Where: It will be held in Mark Brown’s comfortable converted barn which has adult bunk beds, (singles and 6 double beds), showers and a large community room on the first storey with views of the magnificent Suffolk countryside. Places are limited so please commit early to avoid disappointment. (If you know that you really can’t make it up to a top bunk, please let us know in advance.)

Address: Bullocks Ley, Burgate Diss IP22 1QE

see Calendar for details.